Marriage is the union of two persons and since the beginning of time it has always been the union between men and women. In order to continue men lineage on this earth, Allah has ordered men to be married with women and not to be married with men. Allah has made men and women to be biologically compatible to reproduce. Allah ordered men to be married with women so that human being can reproduce and the human population can grow in numbers. It is impossible for the human population to grow in numbers without being able to reproduce. Human beings are able to reproduce only when men are ordered to be married with woman and not with men and women are ordered to be married with men and not with women. Allowing men to be married with men and allowing women to be married with women is the same as trying to stop the human race from reproduce and from growing in numbers. Allah is the One who has created men and women and it is the order of Allah for men to be married with women and not for men to be married with another men and also it is the order of Allah for women to be married with another men and not to be married with another women. When men are married with men and women are married with women, it means we have disobeyed the order of Allah and certainly Allah will not be pleased with those men and women who have disobeyed the orders of Allah.
Nowadays the West is allowing men to marry with men and allowing women to marry with women. The West believe that everyone has the right to choose whether to marry with a man or to marry with a woman. The West believe in the freedom of expression and the freedom of choice which is commonly known as Human right and those who are active in propagating Human right are known as Human right activists. The West believe in the freedom to choose either to marry or not to marry and the freedom to choose either to marry with the same gander or to marry with the opposite gender. Allah who has created us allows us to have the freedom to obey His orders or not. Allah orders men to marry with women and women to marry with men. In case men desire to marry with men and women desire to marry with women, which means those men and women are among those who desire to disobey the orders of Allah. When men disobey the order of Allah, men will become unsuccessful in this world and in the hereafter. Whoever disobeys the orders of Allah they will be punished by Allah. Allah mentions in the Quran that there is no compulsion in religion which means everyone in this world has the choice either to obey or not the order of Allah and therefore in this world no one is to be forced. Allah is the most compassionate and the most merciful and He gives men the freedom to choose either to obey or not the order of Allah in spite of the fact that Allah has created men and has fulfills all the needs of men.
What are the reasons given by most peoples who choose to marry the same gender? One of the main reasons given is love. Love and marriage are two different orders of Allah. Allah orders us to love each other’s particularly those who are loved by Allah. Allah orders man to marry woman. Allah does not order man to marry only the woman whom man loves. A man may marry the woman whom he loved or the woman whom he does not love. A man may love another man but that does not mean the man has to marry that man. Similarly a woman may love another woman but that does not mean she must marry that woman whom she loves. However, nowadays most man and woman are married to each other because they are in love with each other. Allah orders men and women to be married regardless whether they are in love with each other or not. When men and women are married only because they are in love with each other then their intention of marrying to each other is wrong. We should not be married only because we are in love with each other. We should be married to each other because it is the order of Allah and our intention of marrying to each other is because we want to please Allah. Love should not be the reason why we should be married to each other. Nowadays many peoples think and believe that they should be married only to those whom they love and when they are no longer in love with each other they decided to be divorced or separated from each other. Love is in our heart and the One who place the love toward a person in our heart is Allah. When Allah places the love towards someone in our heart we will fall in love with that person but that does not mean, we have to marry to everyone whom we love. When Allah does not places the love in our heart towards a person then we will not have the love towards that person and that does not mean we have to divorce or to be separated from everyone whom we do not love.
When we love someone that does not men we need to marry that person. A man is allowed to love a man but a man is not allowed to marry a man. Similarly a woman is allowed to love another woman but a woman is not allowed to marry with another woman. This is the order of Allah who is the creator of men. A man is allowed to marry a woman whom man loves or to the woman whom man does not love. A woman is allowed to marry a man whom the woman loves or to the man whom the woman does not love. It is not obligatory for a man to marry only the woman whom he loves. A man is allowed to marry even to the woman whom he does not love. We can marry with a person only with the permission of Allah. We cannot marry a person whom we love or we do not love except with the permission of Allah. We can marry only to the person whom Allah permits us to marry. Allah is the one who instills the feeling of love towards someone in our heart and when Allah wants us to love someone, we have no other choice but to love that person. Love is blind. Love is blind because we have no control whatsoever to whom we should love or to whom we should not love. There is no one who has the power to instill the feeling of love toward someone in our hearts except Allah. When Allah instills the feeling of love towards someone inside our heart we will have no choice but to love that person. Allah instills the feeling of love towards Prophet Musa inside the heart of Asyiah, who is the wife of Fir’aun. Asyiah has no power to resist the love which Allah had instilled inside her heart towards Prophet Musa. With the love Asyiah had towards Prophet Musa in her heart, Allah had saved Prophet Musa from being killed by the Fir’aun who was the enemies of Musa and Allah. Allah is the one who instills the feeling of love inside the hearts of every mother towards their babies. With the feeling of love, a mother has, towards their babies, Allah is protecting and nourishing the babies. It is only because of the love which Allah has instilled into the heart of every mother towards their babies which make every mother willing to be awakened in the middle of the night in order to feed their babies. Love is a virtue and love is a noble quality. There is no one who is able to instill the feeling of love inside our hearts towards anyone, except Allah.
Allah instills the feeling of love towards someone inside our hearts in order to test us. Allah may instill the feeling of love inside our hearts either toward a man or a woman. It is a virtue to love someone either that person is a man or a woman. However we are ordered by Allah to love Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw more than we are ordered to love other than Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw. We are allowed to love other than Allah but the love which we have toward other than Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw cannot be more that the love which we have towards Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw. As for an example we are allowed to love our husband or our wife or our children but the love which we have towards them cannot be more than the love which we should have toward Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw. When Prophet Ibrahim loves his wife and son more than he loves Allah, Allah ordered Prophet Ibrahim to leave his son and his wife in the desert with little provision. When Prophet Ibrahim loves his son more than he loves Allah, Allah ordered Prophet Ibrahim to slaughter his son Prophet Ismail. When Prophet Ibrahim obeyed the orders of Allah, Allah makes the love in which Prophet Ibrahim had in his heart toward his wife and son to become less than the love which Prophet Ibrahim had towards Allah. Both orders were given by Allah to Prophet Ibrahim in order to rectified Prophet Ibrahim. When Prophet Ibrahim obeyed the orders of Allah, he became rectified. It is not a virtue to love someone more than to love Allah. It is only a virtue when we love someone because it is the order of Allah and to please Allah and the amount of love we should have towards a person must be less than the amount of love we should have towards Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw. It is the order of Allah not to love someone more than we love Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw. When we love someone more than we love Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw we have disobeyed the order of Allah. When we love Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw more than we love all other than Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw we have obeyed the orders of Allah. When we love other than Allah more than we love Allah and Prophet Muhammad saw, we have associated Allah with other than Allah.
In Islam, a man is allowed to fall in love with either a man or a woman but in Islam a man is only allowed to marry a woman and not a man. Similarly in Islam a woman is allowed to fall in love with another woman or man but a woman is only allowed to marry with a man and not a woman. It is not obligatory for men to marry only the woman whom they love or to the woman whom they do not love. Allah orders man to marry only with a woman and not with a man and Allah orders woman to marry only with a man and not with a woman. The purpose of a marriage is to reproduce and not merely to have pleasure with sexual intercourse. A man may have sexual intercourse with a man or a woman or even with the animals but in order for men to reproduce a man need to marry and to have sexual intercourse only with another woman and not man or animals. A man who marries with another man or a woman who marries with another woman is violating one of the most important orders of Allah. Allah orders man to marry only with another woman so that the human race will reproduce and the human race will increase in number in this world. Human race will be extinct in case a man is allowed to marry with another man and a woman is allowed to marry with another woman. It is highly illogical and absurd to allow man to marry another man and woman to marry another woman. When the Western society is allowing man to marry man and woman to marry woman it means, the Western society is moving towards destruction.
In my opinion the present day, Western society is a society which does not believe in the existence of God, does not believe in the orders of God and does not believe in obeying the orders of God. Many peoples think that the Westerners are Christian but in reality many of them are not having any religion. Many peoples in the Western world are either atheist or agnostics. Many in the West are making their desires to be their God. What is the religion of most peoples in the West? In my opinion their religion is mainly to follow the order of their desires. Man who marry another man and woman who marry another woman are among those in the West who have made their desire to be their God and to follow the orders of their desires to be their religion. When men start to follow their own desires and not the desire of God, men are actually heading towards their own destruction. Allah sent Prophet Lut to a tribe known as the tribe of Sodom. It is a tribe which used to live in an area which is the present day is Palestine and Jordan. The tribe of Sodom was practicing homosexuality and the word sodomy which is often used by many peoples today is to describe those peoples who practice homosexuality. Allah sends Prophet Lut to the peoples of Sodom in order to invite them to Allah and to the orders of Allah. Prophet Lut called them to believe in Allah and to believe Prophet Lut as the messenger of Allah. Prophet Lut called them to believe in Allah and to obey the orders of Allah. Prophet Lut was trying to prevent them from practicing homosexuality but the tribe of Sodom disregards the invitation and the advice given by Prophet Lut and they continue to practice homosexuality. When the angels came to deliver the news to Prophet Lut that Allah will destroy the tribe of Sodom, there are some men from among the tribe of Sodom who came to the house of Prophet Lut in order to try to seduce the angels into practicing homosexuality. This incident had made Prophet Lut to become very much embarrassed to his visitor who happened to be an angel, sent by Allah to deliver the news to him but the angel comes to look like a young handsome man. The men of the tribe of Sodom who practice homosexuality were attracted to the angel.
Why do the tribes of Sodom practice homosexuality? Homosexuality is not about love between two men but it is about abnormal sexual behaviours in which men obtain their sexual satisfaction by penetrating their penis via the anus of man or woman and not via the vagina of a woman. When men obtain their sexual satisfaction by penetrating their penis via the anus and not via the vagina, the men are said to practice homosexuality and whoever is practicing homosexuality has indeed disobeyed the order of Allah. When men disobeyed the order of Allah it means the men have obeyed the orders of the devil syaitan. The tribe of Sodom which practice homosexuality must be a tribe which was completely obeying the orders of the devil syaitan.The devil syaitans must have persuaded the men from the tribe of Sodom to practice homosexuality and not to accept the Oneness of Allah and not to obey the orders of Allah. Allah punished the tribe of Sodom by ordering the angels to turn upside down the city of Sodom and because of that, a creator was created and the creator is now filled with salty water and it form a very large lake known as the Dead Sea. On whatever reasons given to legalize gay marriage, in my opinion, the practice of gay marriage is not at all acceptable in a civilized society. Whoever practice or support or help to legalize the practice of gay marriage is disobeying the order of Allah and whoever disobeys the order of Allah shall be punished by Allah in this world and the hereafter. The tribe of Sodom which practice homosexuality was punished by Allah and because of that the whole tribe of Sodom was completely alienated from the surface of the earth. The practice of homosexuality started way back since the time of Prophet Lut which was at the same time as Prophet Ibrahim. Iblis likes men to practice homosexuality because a man who practices homosexuality will never be able to marry with the man whom he had sexual intercourse with and therefore a person who practices homosexuality will continue to commit sins until the day that persons dies. A man who practices premarital sexual intercourse with a woman will stop disobeying the order of Allah when the man marry with the woman whom he had premarital sexual intercourse with and therefore will not continue to commit sins until the day that person dies as the persons who practice homosexuality. It is because of this reason Iblis likes the sons of Adam to practice homosexuality and not heterosexuality.
Prof Dr Nasoha Saabin
March 2013
Integrative Holistic Wellness Centre